In the past, it was the norm for people to wait until they were married before they had sex, and they would have probably stayed with the same person until their time on this earth came to an end.
Having sex outside of marriage was no longer regarded as something that was incorrect, at least not to the same degree as before. Naturally, there were individuals who weren’t on board with what was taking place.
A New Era
Nowadays, it is a bigger deal for somebody to get married than it is for them to have sex out of it.
Marriage is often seen as something that is old and outdated, or just as something that will allow a couple to get certain benefits. Having casual sex, on the other hand, is as normal as going out and buying a chocolate bar (or a fruit bar for people who are healthy), for instance – it isn’t seen as a huge deal.
One way of looking at this would be to say that although people were restricted from the past; this is no longer the case. If someone wants to express themselves sexually without committing to another individual, they can, and they can do so without feeling ashamed.
If they were alive a number of decades ago, they might have had to repress this urge and to wait till they had found someone to commit their life to. Looking at this based on how things are today, it may seem incredibly restrictive to live in this way.
If someone who – regularly expresses their sexual side with unique individuals – was sent back in time, they would most likely find it incredibly tricky to handle. They would be able to express themselves in different ways, but it may feel as though they’re in a cage.
This section of their nature would have to be overlooked, that’s unless they were to channel it into something creative. Fortunately, then, someone can express this side of these directly in the current world, along with being creative in different ways.
So, as it is no longer necessary for someone to be married in order to allow them to fulfil their sexual needs, it has meant that there are loads of people that are not interested in having a relationship. Due to how simple for them to fulfil their sexual needs, there isn’t any need for them to commit to anyone.
What also play a role in this is if someone is at the beginning of their life and is physically attractive, which can make it easy for them to attract people. The desire to only fulfil their sexual needs and to forget the rest of their needs may also be a sign they have a fear of intimacy.
With that aside, it could be said when someone has the ability to express themselves in this way, it is going to empower them to have a fulfilling relationship if they so choose. For a start, getting close to unique individuals will allow them to find out what kind of person would be suitable for them.
Whereas, if they were not able to’experiment’ in this manner, they wouldn’t get the opportunity to understand who would be a good match for them. It is then much like trying out different cars, as opposed to buying the first car that appears, or trying out different jobs, before finding the right career path.
A Life of Misery
If one was to wind up in a relationship with the first person who they felt attracted to and got married shortly after, and this might be someone they have met at college, for instance, they may end up realizing that they are not compatible within a couple of years.
What may play a big role in a person’s decision to’experiment’ could be what their parent’s relationship was like when they were growing up.
However, while someone may find that’experimenting’ with a great deal of people different will allow them to find someone who’s right for them and to get a long-term relationship, it might not work out this way. For one thing, they may find that being in a relationship is not stimulating enough, and that they crave the stimulation they get by hooking up with unique people each week/month.
Fast food will be quick and easy, just as getting casual sexual will be quick and easy; healthy food will take a while to prepare and provide a different level of satisfaction, as a committed relationship is going to take a while to develop and it will not necessarily be filled with the very same highs and lows.
A Loss of Willpower
What one my find is that through having a lot of casual encounters, it’s produced a very low tolerance for frustration and eroded their self-control. Said another way, they won’t know how to manage the minutes when there is conflict and they won’t understand how to control their urges.
Therefore, as soon as there is tension between them and their partner, they may feel the pull to find somebody else, and, if they find someone else attractive, they may be unable to acknowledge this urge without needing to act upon it. It will be as if they have devolved into a child who’s completely controlled by their urges.
The Grass Is Greener
At the back of their mind, they could believe that there’s someone out there who is better than the person they are with, eliminating the need to work through any challenges that arise. These challenges can be viewed as a sign that their relationship is not working, instead of a typical part of a relationship and as something that will bring them nearer.
Being with so many people won’t have allowed them to get a clearer idea about the kind of person who’s right for them; what it’ll have done is made it more or less impossible for them to choose who is right for them. An individual will have trained themselves to run short distances, and, to stay with somebody, they will need to undertake the training that will enable them to run long distances.